WORK WITH ME

If you’re a man feeling stuck or disconnected at home, you’re not alone.

Many men today pour so much energy into career demands that they feel a growing distance from their families. You might be juggling long hours or stressful projects and still end up feeling overwhelmed, distant, or on autopilot with your spouse and kids. Maybe you’re longing for a sense of purpose or wondering how to break old habits that hold you back.

It’s understandable to feel this way – after all, society often tells men to “be strong” and keep quiet about pain. But research reminds us that real strength comes from understanding our emotions, not hiding them.

In our work together, we’ll focus on practical solutions and honest conversations. There’s no need for buzzwords or spiritual jargon – just straightforward tools to help you build confidence, emotional resilience, and healthy masculinity.

Healthy masculinity means valuing self-awareness and empathy as strengths, not silence or dominance. By learning to recognize and express what’s really going on inside, you can reconnect with the people who matter most and feel more present, authentic, and proud in your daily life.

"Phil is the best coach that I have ever worked with, incredible in fact. His approach and skillful tact is what makes him incredible. He provides tools that have helped me tackle life’s ups and downs.

The work we have done together has improved my relationships with my wife, friends and clients.

With his help and guidance, I re-established my confidence and have built a set of tools to handle what life throws at me. I highly recommend Phil, and yes... I am still working with him!

- Tanner \ Real estate company president

My Journey from Avoidance to Authentic Relationships

In my twenties, life was about chasing approval. I spent years seeking validation through casual relationships, using meaningless encounters as a way to feel confident, valued, and like I was enough. Underneath it all was a fear of rejection and getting it wrong—afraid to commit fully, afraid to choose the wrong partner, afraid to open myself up and truly be seen.

Naturally, I convinced myself the problem was always with the women I met, not me.

Looking back, the pattern is clear: I was avoidant. My relationships reflected this—filled with conflict, drama, emotional distance, and a lack of trust.

Eventually, I reached a turning point. I realised something had to change, and it had to start within me. So, I committed myself fully to understanding my patterns. I invested in coaching, mentorship, and deep personal work, uncovering why I struggled with intimacy, trust, and vulnerability.

Through that process, I finally experienced what it felt like to build genuine, connected relationships, express myself honestly, and find a sense of inner peace and emotional balance.

Today, I live in a relationship that's deeply connected, authentic, and emotionally open. Now, my passion and my purpose are to guide other men through this journey—helping them transform their relationships, reconnect with their loved ones, and experience real emotional freedom.

If you're ready for this kind of transformation, I’d be honoured to help you get there.

"I've known Phil for a while now and he's very generous with his time and advice. He strikes a solid balance between empathy and objectivity, and goes above and beyond to provide valuable and actionable advice, both personal and career-wise."

Steve / Marketing Consultant

The main problems men are facing today

Every man faces unique challenges—but the feeling of disconnection is universal. Maybe you’re dealing with low confidence, constant overthinking, or finding it hard to genuinely assert yourself. Perhaps emotional closeness feels difficult, intimacy feels out of reach, or negative patterns keep holding you back. Whatever you're going through, the result is the same: relationships suffer, and you’re not living the life you truly want.

And that's just what you're aware of. Many men are disconnected from deeper parts of themselves—like confidence, assertiveness, authenticity, and genuine self-expression—without even realising it. This hidden disconnect quietly damages their relationships, happiness, and sense of fulfilment.

The good news is that practical steps exist to address these challenges. By reconnecting with who you genuinely are and becoming more emotionally aware, you can transform your relationships, show up powerfully in your life, and experience the deep connection you deserve.

If this resonates, let’s talk about how we can start that process together.

Problems YOU are facing

Here are some of the signs that you know that things are not going the way you want in your dating life, relationship, self-expression and sexuality:

RELATIONSHIP STRUGGLES

Your relationship feels full of arguments, criticism, misunderstandings, and emotional distance.
You often find yourself unsure about what your partner truly needs or expects from you.
The passion and closeness you once enjoyed seems to have faded, and you're not sure how to get it back.
You find yourself constantly people-pleasing, holding back your true feelings, and struggling to express your own needs clearly.
Deep down, you want to feel authentic, openly connected, and experience a strong emotional bond with your partner.

COMMUNICATION ISSUES

You often feel completely out of touch with your own emotions, or you're overwhelmed and controlled by them.
Life feels numb—you're not able to fully experience joy, passion, or excitement.
Overthinking, anxiety, and self-judgment regularly stop you from speaking up or showing your true self.
You hesitate to step into assertiveness, confidence, and your natural healthy masculinity.
You crave emotional balance, resilience, and control over your feelings—rather than letting them control you.

SEXUAL CHALLENGES

Sex is either infrequent, lacking intimacy, or feels mechanical and routine.
You find yourself mentally distracted during sex, consumed by worries, shame, or anxiety about your performance.
You may struggle with premature ejaculation or other sexual difficulties, causing further stress and self-consciousness.
Ultimately, you want deeply connected, fulfilling, and passionate intimacy with your partner.

How The Better Man Project can help you.

I help men reconnect with who they truly are—guiding them to rediscover genuine confidence, emotional strength, and self-awareness. Together, we'll unpack the beliefs and patterns holding you back so you can replace frustration and disconnection with clarity, emotional depth, and authenticity.

Through my tailored coaching, you'll learn practical ways to build deeper emotional and physical intimacy, communicate openly with your partner, and develop relationships that reflect what you truly want and deserve.

My ultimate goal is to help you create a life and relationship you're genuinely excited to live—one filled with meaning, passion, and connection.

To achieve this, I offer fully personalised one-to-one coaching programs, uniquely crafted to fit your situation, challenges, and goals.

I've spent over 7 years deeply immersed in personal growth, invested hundreds of hours in learning from world-class coaches and mentors, and coached men around the globe. I have studied as a psychotherapist, I have worked as a counsellor, a coach and studied under the likes of Jay Shetty.

Everything I've learned—personally and professionally—is now distilled into practical guidance designed specifically to help you reconnect with your marriage, your children, and yourself.

The benefits of 1:1 Coaching

If opening up in group sessions feels daunting, my private 1-to-1 coaching offers a safe, supportive space tailored exclusively to your needs and goals.

Perhaps you're looking to build genuine confidence, reconnect deeply in your marriage, or move past old frustrations in intimacy and relationships. Maybe you're ready to finally release longstanding stress or disappointment that's holding you back from truly enjoying your family, relationships, and life.

Whatever challenge you're facing, my personalised coaching will equip you with practical tools, greater emotional awareness, and a sense of authentic strength—helping you become the confident, present, and deeply connected man you want to be.

MY COACHING FOCUSES ON...

Relationships & Marriage

Identify and dismantle limiting beliefs that hold you back from connecting deeply with your partner.
Learn practical ways to clearly communicate your needs, wants, and boundaries in relationships.
Develop conflict-resolution skills that foster closeness, compassion, and mutual respect.
Build trust and emotional safety, both within yourself and your relationship.
Understand and break patterns of self-sabotage that undermine your happiness.
Move beyond people-pleasing and step confidently into authentic leadership at home.

Fatherhood & Family Life

Become a more present, engaged, and emotionally available father.
Learn to balance work, family, and personal life without feeling overwhelmed.
Communicate openly and lovingly with your children, creating meaningful bonds that last a lifetime.
Model healthy emotional expression, creating a nurturing home environment for everyone in your family.
Build resilience, patience, and emotional calm in your role as a father.

Emotional Awareness & Resilience

Gain clarity and understanding around your emotions—why you feel the way you do, and what to do about it.
Learn to express your emotions confidently and clearly, without fear or shame.
Break free from feeling emotionally numb, and start truly experiencing joy, happiness, and fulfilment.
Manage stress and overwhelm effectively, without shutting down or lashing out.
Shift your relationship with emotions, understanding them as a source of strength and authenticity rather than weakness.
Embrace vulnerability and use it as a powerful tool for deeper connections.

Confidence & Self-Worth

Rebuild your sense of confidence, self-esteem, and genuine self-worth.
Learn to turn self-doubt and overthinking into grounded, calm presence.
Step into your life with clarity, assertiveness, and purpose.
Create new habits and mindset shifts that reinforce a stronger, healthier self-image.

Sexual Intimacy & Connection

Overcome stress, shame, or anxiety around intimacy and sexuality.
Improve your ability to be fully present during intimacy, creating deeper connection and pleasure.
Address common intimacy challenges, such as performance anxiety or sexual worries, with practical solutions.
Rediscover passion, intimacy, and genuine enjoyment in your sexual relationship.

Healthy Masculinity & Authentic Leadership

Develop a clear understanding and practice of healthy, positive masculinity—grounded in strength, kindness, and emotional intelligence.
Learn to lead with confidence, assertiveness, and compassion simultaneously.
Harmonise your strength and sensitivity, embodying a balanced, authentic masculine presence.
Become the man, partner, and father you genuinely aspire to be—grounded, emotionally intelligent, and authentically yourself.

I'm glad that life put Phil in my way in a stage where I was going through a lot. Phil is so smart, highly analytical, can identify the exact issue and coach you through it , part of that is his listening skills, because he listens well, he is able to understand well. one very important thing about him, that he genuinely cares and he goes over and above for his clients. Phil, I am so grateful and part of where I am now is owed to you.

Adam/ Financial Manager

THE TYPE OF MEN I WORK WITH

My coaching is designed specifically for men who are committed to creating genuine change. Men who want more from life and are ready to put in the effort to make it happen. If you’re seeking deeper, more meaningful relationships, want greater confidence and presence, and are ready to reconnect with yourself, your partner, and your family—this is for you.

I coach men who want to trade emotional numbness for authentic connection, who are tired of superficial interactions, and who want real intimacy, openness, and clarity in their relationships. Men who understand the value of emotional intelligence and want to strengthen their ability to express themselves openly and confidently.

THE TYPE OF MEN I DON'T WORK WITH

My coaching isn’t suitable for men who think they've got all the answers already or who aren't open to honest self-reflection. If you're looking for quick fixes or someone to tell you exactly what to say or do without genuine self-growth, this isn’t the right fit. I also don’t work with men who feel committed to staying stuck or who are unwilling to explore new ways of thinking and relating. Lastly, my coaching isn’t for men looking for shortcuts or ways to manipulate relationships—instead, it's about building authentic, respectful connections.

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WHAT YOU GET FROM WORKING WITH ME

A safe, supportive space where you can talk openly, without judgment, and genuinely explore what's holding you back from the life and relationships you want.
Practical tools and guidance from a male coach who's walked this path himself. I’ll equip you with actionable strategies to build relationships that bring you happiness, passion, and a deep sense of connection and fulfilment.
Greater emotional intelligence and confidence. You'll learn how to communicate openly, authentically, and clearly with your partner and loved ones, enabling you to create the meaningful connections and intimacy you've always wanted.
Real, lasting change—helping you reconnect fully with yourself, your partner, and your family, creating relationships that genuinely enrich your life.

THE RESULTS...

- Authentic Communication: Express yourself openly, clearly, and authentically, without fear or second-guessing.

- Deep Self-Awareness: Understand who you truly are, what you genuinely want, and what's most important to you in your relationships and life.

- Practical Relationship Skills: Develop clear, actionable strategies to confidently handle any challenge in your relationships or family life.

- Freedom from Overthinking: Move beyond anxiety, analysis paralysis, and self-doubt, so you can make decisions with confidence and clarity.

- Emotional Confidence: No longer be controlled by fear of rejection or failure; confidently connect and communicate in any social or relationship situation.

- Stronger Emotional Connections: Learn to approach and handle your emotions and those of others effectively, replacing conflict with meaningful connection.

- Greater Intimacy & Purpose: Create intentional, fulfilling, and deeply connected relationships based on emotional honesty, mutual respect, and trust.

- Clear Emotional Expression: Become skilled at recognising, expressing, and managing your emotions, using them to deepen bonds rather than creating distance.

- Increased Confidence & Self-Worth: Feel confident approaching anyone, speaking your truth, and showing up fully and authentically in your life.

- Balanced Masculinity: Embody a healthy, grounded, and purposeful masculinity—supporting strong relationships, self-mastery, and deeper connection.

- Joyful, Passionate Relationships: Cultivate authentic relationships that bring joy, passion, fulfilment, and lasting happiness.

Be the Man You Want to Be: Live a life of purpose, integrity, and emotional openness—becoming the partner, father, and person you've always aspired to be.

Step into your authentic self and finally become the man you've always dreamed of being.

WHAT'S THE NEXT STEPS?

Book your free 60-minute coaching call with me, and let's dive straight into what’s really going on. You’ll get clarity on the key issues holding you back—whether that's in your marriage, family life, confidence, or emotional resilience—and we'll outline clear, actionable steps you can take immediately.

This isn’t a quick 20-minute "sales call" like most coaches offer. Instead, it's a genuine, focused coaching session where you'll gain deeper insight into the root causes of your challenges and leave with practical strategies to begin solving them.

No pressure, no obligation, and definitely no sales pitch—just real value, honest insights, and meaningful next steps.

This session is also our chance to see if we're a good match for further work together. If you're interested, we can discuss coaching programs that can be tailored specifically to your needs and goals.

Here’s How It Works:

STEP 1: Click the "Book Your Free Session" button below and choose a time that suits you.
STEP 2: Complete a short questionnaire, so I can get a sense of your situation and come fully prepared for our conversation.
STEP 3: Join me for your free 60-minute coaching session. You'll leave with clarity, practical tools, and clear next steps to start moving forward immediately.